For my friends that know me there is one thing that they all know very well – I attract married men, engaged men and men involved in a long-term relationship without even trying. For some reason, they seem to love me, literally like I have writing on my forehead that only they can see.
My sister told me it’s because I’m a “good-time girl” I tried to ignore the fact that she had just used a 1950’s word for slut. To be completely fair she went on to elaborate that it’s because I’m a fun girl, and I have an outgoing personality. My boss once told me it’s because I’m always happy and carefree and it’s the opposite of the responsibility they have at home.
I have a tendency to treat everyone the same regardless if they are men or women, so when I’m laughing and joking with a woman, it’s just laughing and joking. But somehow when I’m laughing and joking with a man, it translates into flirting and double meanings.
The thing is, if I don’t want a boyfriend or husband of my own, why the hell would I want someone else’s? This isn’t New York, and I’m not a Mistress. And every time an affair is found out it’s the women that get called out for their poor morals – ohhh k... if the woman is single it is her prerogative to do what she pleases, she is free of responsibility, she has made vows to no one. Yet they are the ones who get ridiculed and called names well men get the “boys will be boys” card.
I’ve received flowers and phone calls to my office, text messages upon text messages and as recent as last night propositional emails from men that are taken by other woman.
When I was 18 and worked as a cashier at a grocery store a regular customer would come through my till wearing his wedding ring and would continually ask me to have dinner with him.
I’ve gotten so used to it that it doesn’t even faze me anymore. I laugh and move on, although I did learn the more you turn down a taken man, the more they seem to pursue you... that is until you bring up their significant other... that seems to deter them slightly. I don’t judge the guys because I have no idea what arrangement they’ve made at home about what their allowed to do. But I do know I never want an angry wife or girlfriend tracking me down because they think it’s my fault their significant other has a wandering eye. I’m just the girl it happened to wander to, that’s all.
From what I have seen, it is very VERY rare for a married man to leave for the mistress. It happens, but not often. I wouldn't put any stock into someone who is already taken.
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