Everyone has baggage. But there are people that pack light and can fit everything into one neat little bag and then there are people that need a separate car to follow them because they have so much.
I like to think I pack light; I don’t carry issues from past relationships into new ones. Just because the last guy I dated was a pathological liar, doesn’t mean this new one is. He hasn’t given me any reason not to trust him. But because I dated the pathological liar, I know what sort of things to look for as a warning. Every time I date a new guy it’s like taking a new class in school. And you apply what you’ve learned from one class to help you pass another. It’s like taking what you learned in English to help you write an essay for History. So from Jake I learned not to get jealous and later applied that with Nick.
If you’re able to learn from the past and move on you’ll be fine. However, there are a lot of people out there that are very poor students. Instead of learning from a relationship and moving forward, they keep the issues that plagued their past relationship and carry them into their new one. Just because your last girlfriend was cheating on you, doesn’t mean I will. And no, you can’t go through my phone. (I’ve never gone through a guy’s phone, because I would never expect him to go through mine. It’s a trust thing.)
I can’t date a guy that’s being followed by a car full of issues. Most importantly because it’s like buying something that’s already defective (there’s a reason you get 70% off on damaged goods). I want to be 100% sure that if this guy is going to end up broken, that I’m the one who did it.
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