My emotions are attached just fine, thank you...

“You seem emotionally detached.” That was the sentence that was spoken to me yesterday by a man that I barely know.
I sit in a class with him once a week, for 2 hours and have very rarely said anything to him. To be fair I did give a presentation about a month ago on how to break up with someone. It was just common sense stuff – like don’t break up with someone in a coffee shop because you could get burned, like literally scalded. Under extreme emotional situations some people throw things, better it be ice cream then coffee, and better to know before it happens to you.

I was standing with another girl when he came up to me to discuss my emotional vulnerability. I told him I was happy, so I’m not disconnected from my feelings, but I understand it seems odd that I don’t react like most people.
Then he told me that “it’s bad not to deal with those emotions.”
I asked him what emotions he was referring to precisely so I could understand better. He said “like during a break up”. I told him that yes, breakups are sad sometimes, but I’m not going to dwell for days on something that isn’t going to change.
Then he agreed that it’s bad to dwell, but what about during the break up; don’t I cry?
Cry about what? If someone tells me that they don’t want to date me anymore, I’m not going to beg the person to reconsider their decision. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn’t really want me? Why would I want to wake up thinking “are you happy with me? Are you going to break up with me again today?”
He told me that he cried once after a breakup (I sort of feel like people must think I’m a therapist of some sort). Crying is normal, but I also feel like a lot of people cry and sit in bed and eat ice cream because that’s what society has said is protocol after a breakup.

A breakup is like finishing a book. If it was a really good book and you really enjoyed it, of course you’re sad when you turn the last page and there’s nothing else written. But have you been to a bookstore lately? There are thousands of books to choose from, and sometimes you find that what you thought was the best book you’ve ever read can quickly become the second best book you’ve ever read and then the third.
And don’t forget, if you really didn’t like the way a book ended, no one will hold it against you if you rewrite your own ending.