There is one word that should never be spoken to me during a fight and that word is “Relax”. Because I can guarantee that I’m really not as upset as you think I am, but as soon as you tell me to relax then I will be upset.
When I’m with a guy, fights are few and far between. It takes a lot to make me upset, and if I am upset I rationally talk about it by stating simple facts. Understandably, sometimes my simple facts may be taken the wrong way and sound harsher then I intended them to.
Jake and I only ever had one fight (his fault) and during the fight I said “you don’t possess empathy”, which is true because he doesn’t. But I was completely calm during this fight, and he came back at me with “Wow – Relax”. If we’re just going back and forth speaking in a calm manner, I don’t want you to try to turn the fight around on me and make it seem like it’s my fault and that I’m some crazy girl over reacting.
That fight ended with Jake apologizing, and for the first time admitting that he cared about me.
Now what prompted me to write this post is our favorite Cheap Thrill. On Friday afternoon he asked me a question over text message and I gave him an answer that he wasn’t happy with. I then proceeded to go into a meeting for half an hour and when I looked at my phone after the meeting he had sent me 6 text messages, some accusing me of ignoring him and the last one saying something about a friend of mine. So I simply replied to him “I was in a meeting. I didn’t realize you could act like such a prick”. – Now this may seem harsh, but it’s true, and if I was acting unbecoming for an unwarranted reason, I would expect to be told so.
So he replied “I was kidding. Are you sensitive?” – Well, no he wasn’t and we all know I’m not sensitive. Then he sent “I am bored and thrive on reaction, relax.” –there it was, that godforsaken word.
I do not need to be told to relax; I am not the one sending multiple unanswered text messages. Do not try to make this into me being an overly emotional girl, because I am not.
Everything ended well; he admitted he was acting like a child; I just wanted to make sure he understands he won’t get away with anything he usually gets away with.
If he wants a girl that’s ok with him behaving that way, well I know plenty of girls that are dumb enough to be played, and I would be happy to set him up.
Aren’t Cheap Thrills supposed to be fun? Any more drama and I’ll have to throw this one back.
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