Meeting new guys is easy; you just have to put yourself in the right place at the right time. Then laugh later about what a coincidence it was that you were both in the same place at the right time.
My favorite new way to meet a guy is to wear a baseball cap. I bought a Toronto Maple Leafs hat to wear back and forth from the gym and quickly realized that I had found the best ice breaker ever. No matter where I was I had guys coming up to me, they would tell me that they were from Toronto, or ask me how I could support a team that constantly loses. I wore it to a pub and instantly had 4 guys start a conversation with me. For the record I view the Leafs like a one legged man in a race; you know he’s not going to win but you cheer him on all the same for still trying. Anyway, you’ll get many more guys that will come up to you if you have a controversial team’s logo on your hat; no one cares if you support the home team, that’s expected. One wise word of warning – learn at least one players name from the team because it got really awkward when I was asked who my favorite player was.
The grocery store is great because there are so many things you can ask a cute guy to help you with. Like if you both happen to be in the cereal aisle, and you just can’t reach the top shelf to get the Lucky Charms down. That’s when you turn to the good looking guy beside you, put that helpless look on your face and ask him if he could possibly try to help you. Guys love to feel needed, even better if they think you would be completely lost if they weren’t there to help you. After they get the cereal for you, make sure they know how much you appreciate it, try saying; “thank you so much. I don’t know why they make these shelves so high. I should have you every time I go grocery shopping.” Then smile and giggle. Hopefully you are able to start up a conversation from his response, and even if he doesn’t ask for your number, chances are that he’s a regular at the grocery store so the next time you see him, you can approach him. You can also try asking for help opening those god awful plastic bags in the produce section, or ask how you can tell if a fruit is ripe.
Obviously you may not need help, and are fully capable of doing things for yourself, but a wise woman once told me that every now and then a guy needs to think that you do need him. She demonstrated this by taking her glasses off and asking a young guy to fix them for her (there was nothing wrong with her glasses). He took them in his hands and looked at them, then she said “you fixed them, thank you” and tried to take them back. But the guy was adamant that he should tighten the screws and ran off to go find something that he could use to accomplish that. When he came back he was beaming with pride and happily handed the “fixed” glasses back over (the funny part is that he actually ended up breaking the screw inside the arm of the glasses, and they had to be taken in to be repaired). I’m not saying be totally helpless, because that’s unattractive. I like to think of it as “playing Snow White” every now and again, just to let them feel like a Prince.
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