I never dated him…Why? What did you hear?...

For me guys fall into 3 categories;

1. Guys you date and only tell your best friends about
2. Guys you date openly but a relationship isn’t likely
3. Guys you date with a relationship in mind

Most of my guys I date fall into the 2nd category. I’ve had one or two in the 3rd category and a couple in the 1st category.
Today I’d like to talk about the guys in the 1st category, the “cheap thrill” as I like to call them. These aren’t the guys that send you flowers or plan out extensive dates for you. They don’t care what grades you got in school or what job you have now.
For me the guys that fall into the 1st category are usually beautiful, very athletic, charming and have nothing in common with me. I have a weakness for them; it’s like putting a bag full of candy in front someone; you know you shouldn’t have it because it’s full of empty calories, but god it sure looks good.

I call them “cheap thrills” because that’s what they provide. These are the guys that pursue you even after you’ve turned them down. They use flattery to no end, and when you have a beautiful man telling you how gorgeous he thinks you are, you can’t help but get a cheap thrill out of it. No question about it, there’s always physical chemistry there and that’s what they play off of.

I received a text message last week from a “cheap thrill” that has been openly flirting with me. The text said “we should really just make out sometime” (this was at 10am on a Thursday). Super romantic, I know, but romance isn’t what he’s going for. Let me tell you what he’s done here - he wants me to get that cheap thrill from the fact he’s interested in me and continues to pursue me. He knows I wouldn’t go for it, but by sending that message he’s got me thinking about what it would be like to kiss him. So now every time I see him, I think about that text and about kissing him. Don’t underestimate the “cheap thrill” guys, they know what they’re doing, and they’ve usually perfected getting a girl.

I’m not saying I’m going to fall for his games, but I wouldn’t leave myself alone in a room with a bag full of candy at the moment.