When I’m expecting a call from a guy, my cell phone becomes the enemy. Not just a regular enemy either, it’s like Hitler. Every time an alert goes off my heart will stop. When I realize that I’m at this level of anticipation and anxiety I turn my phone off. I’ve discovered it’s not healthy for me to become so obsessed over another person’s ability to pick up the phone. This usually happens with new crush territory. If I could bottle the intoxicating feeling that a person gets when they have a new crush I would be a millionaire.
I usually give a guy 3-4 days to call me before I write them off. Not to say that there isn’t a possibility that they will call after that, there’s a good possibility they will. But there’s a good possibility I won’t answer.
Unless there’s a good reason they couldn’t call I consider over 5 days too long. If they’ve waited almost a week to call you they obviously have other things (or people) to do and you’re not on that list. The problem with having a crush on a guy is that you’re more then happy to make excuses for him because you like him so much.
I decided to go to my favorite male friend to discuss why a guy would go a week in between calling or just stop calling altogether.
He said that there are a couple of reasons, but this one stood out the most; guys just like the chase and if he’s got a girl and it was easy, he loses interest fast because there’s no challenge (I cleaned up his language a lot).
Usually the guy will keep stringing you along because he knows that you like him, and he knows you’ll come back to him. He doesn’t have to try anymore because he’s already got you, and you’re making it so easy for him. He really loses interest in pursuing anything else with you besides the obvious.
Guys love to hunt, so by answering every time he calls and by dropping things so you can see him, he doesn’t feel the challenge. But if a guy has to pursue you, and he has to work hard to get you, he’s going to be so happy when he finally does get you that he won’t want to let you go.
I haven’t waited by my phone for a guy to call me in a very long time. Using common sense, if a guy likes me, he’s going to call me. It’s as simple as that. If he wants to see how far he can push me and how much he can get away with, well then I welcome the challenge. He usually is shocked when he finds that I’ve made other plans and can’t fit him into my schedule anymore. Things got much simpler when I stopped making excuses for the guys who couldn’t call. And I’m much happier now; it’s a very good feeling when you know without a doubt that you’re getting that call from him.
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